Let’s face it, most of us are not brimming over with confidence or self-esteem; we’re sometimes – if not often – frightened of trying new things, of “putting ourselves out there” and are at times wracked by self-doubt, frightened to show up as ourselves – if we even know who that is.
From our early lives, we’ve been told all sorts of things about ourselves from other people’s perspectives, in their judgement and from their own experiences, which many times is also laden with their own insecurities and envies. We carry labels around that others have attached to us and remember accusing conversations we would rather not have had.
I’m sure we can all can identify with at least some of that, if not all – and you may have found helpful ways genuinely to overcome it all in a way that does actually feel really good for you – you know you’re being completely authentic. You feel happy, contented and in the flow and that’s fantastic. Many people have known that feeling, too.
But you may be someone who either has never known that feeling, or has known and lost it again and both of those are really difficult places to be.
You compare yourself with others. You think “What’s happened to me? What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I have that?” or “Why have I changed? “Why can’t I get that “me” back?”. I think most of us have been there.